I’m very reluctant to write this, but Punitha and I are currently facing a big problem.
The night Devi finally gave Stuart to Kak Azah, Stuart was already in dire straits. Cindy had already succumbed to diarrhoea and vomiting and Stuart was displaying the exact symptoms and fast fading. Devi was not willing to part with Stuart initially, but I finally persuaded her to let a fosterer give Stuart a fighting chance to live.
It’s a life we are talking about here, and a very precious one.
It was only that night that we found out Cindy and Stuart had both been given baby formula. I had suggested to Devi when she adopted the kittens that Pets Own Milk is a highly-recommended milk. But Devi has no transport and the shop nearby did not sell the milk. I suggested that Devi took a taxi, but she wasn’t willing to do this.
After Cindy passed away and Stuart started vomiting, I told Devi she must change the milk. Devi then asked for help (from anyone) to buy her the milk and send it to her house. Devi was not willing to take a taxi again. Someone finally did, after he read my blog posting, but it wasn’t Pets Own Milk either. Perhaps it was some other kitten milk, but Stuart’s condition did not improve. He was fast fading and we were praying so hard for him to hang on.
Punitha and I looked for fosterers and finally found one. But Devi refused to give Stuart up. It took hours (overnight) to persuade her to do so.
When Devi finally relented and gave Stuart to Kak Azah (the fosterer), Devi told Punitha that she could not cope with Stuart and that she had never dealt with kittens this difficult before.
Based on this, we had to make plans for Stuart. If Stuart survived, of which he thankfully did, under the loving and expert care of Kak Azah, Punitha will foster Stuart and she will take on the responsibility of finding a good home for Stuart after that.
We empathised with Devi’s financial and transport problem. Should Stuart need special foods or medical treatment in future, Devi has no transport and she was not willing to take a taxi even though Stuart’s life depended on it.
Devi also has many cats already – about thirty in all.
Punitha and I have both explained to Devi that it would be better to let Stuart go to a home where there are not so many cats and where the owner can provide for Stuart, not only love alone, but also his nutritional and medical needs for a lifetime. We will both assist in the adoption process and do our very best to find Stuart a good home. After all, we have already gone this far for him.
However, Devi wants Stuart back, and has asked that should there be any emergency, I am to provide transport. I am not obliged to provide transport for other people’s pets. AnimalCare does not provide transport.
Punitha and I have talked to Devi for the past hour and she is unrelentingly insisting that she wants Stuart back. Her contention is that she had adopted Stuart and therefore Stuart is hers.
We are really sad that it has come to this.
Here we are thinking of what’s best for the animal and not for ourselves.
Wii was my pet for 3 years, but when my back neighbour started shouting incessantly at Wii and throwing things at him, I could not ensure his safety anymore, especially when I was at work. I too had to give Wii up to Roselin knowing that Roselin could provide a safer home for Wii.
It is not about us, it is not about OUR happiness, it is not about what WE want. It is about doing what’s best for the animals under our care. When we cannot provide enough or well enough and others can, then we have to perform that bit of “sacrifice” and do what’s right for the animal.
I need help to convince Devi to let Punitha foster Stuart and thereafter find him a good home.
Devi is now simply insisting that she wants Stuart back. She says she cannot explain why, but she simply must have Stuart back.
Cindy is already dead. Stuart would have also died had we not found Kak Azah in the nick of time.
Yes, we are thankful that Devi stepped in to adopt Cindy and Stuart when nobody else offered help and the rescuer was going to send the kittens to the shelter (knowing they would be euthanised). We were racing against time to save the two kittens. I told Devi she was the angel-in-need AT THAT TIME. But she could not cope with Cindy and Stuart after that, and Cindy died after barely two days. It is no easy task fostering baby kittens, especially if diarrhoea has already set in. Diarrhoea kills.
Yes, Devi “adopted” them (Devi’s sms: I have already adopted him, he is mine. I want my Stuart back.). But are we going to get technical and play with words here at the expense of a life? Wouldn’t it be more important to collectively do what’s best for Stuart?
When we adopt a pet, when when we get married, when we have children – do we own that pet/person? Do we even own anything in this life when all of us are just passing by temporarily? Our lives connect, a relationship is formed, and that’s all there is to it. If we owned something and claim that it’s “ours”, can we control what happens to it? Can we take it along when we die? We do not own anything even now. We are merely passing through and some of us would like to do as much good as we can before our time is up.
Doing good isn’t about owning things and holding on to things when we cannot cope with them. Love isn’t about possession. Sometimes, love is about being able to let go.
Punitha is a very responsible fosterer and rehomer. We are both going to work together to find the best possible home for Stuart. If we did not care about Stuart, we would not have gone this far for him.
We appeal to Devi’s good sense and compassion to do what’s right for Stuart.
Devi has also been contacting Kak Azah many times daily asking for Stuart back. We appeal to Devi to please stop doing this as Kak Azah stepped in to help when help was truly needed and we do not want fosterers to be put off by such unnecessary disturbances.
We appeal to you, Devi, to please come to your senses and do what is right for Stuart.
Devi, this is for you to read and reflect upon:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
Kahlil Gibran
UPDATES at 10.43am today: Devi has accused us of going back on our word, of betraying her and she says we refuse to give Stuart back because we want to SELL him. I am at a total loss for words now. We want to SELL Stuart???? Goodness gracious…. I shall not even comment on this.
Kak Azah is very tired of all the nasty smses from Devi. She has kittens to foster and a life to live. I have asked Devi to please stop harassing Kak Azah and Punitha with smses and phonecalls.
Devi, our conscience is absolutely clear. We are doing what’s best for Stuart and we again appeal to you to think rationally. Please let this go.
Deal directly with me, Devi. Please stop disturbing Kak Azah and Punitha. They don’t deserve this harassment.
CLARIFICATION on 26th July: Some of you have written to ask if Devi has had a longtime association with AnimalCare since you have noticed that she leaves a lot of comments on my posts. When I first started AnimalCare, Devi asked for help to spay-neuter her cats. We did 8 cats for her (Robbin, Sholay, Jackie, Baby, Mano, Angel, Ponni, Meenu Kutty), and provided transport to and from Subang Jaya to Brickfields, back and forth, for each of these cats. At that time, I was new in this, and we felt sorry that she had no transport. But soon, her friend also asked us for transport, citing her case, so that was when we said no more. We do not provide transport anymore.
We also fully sponsored the medical treatment plus 6 sessions of acupuncture treatment for her cat with gum disease, Seenu.
Initially Devi had the habit of cutting-and-pasting my posts and sending it out to her MI Club asking for donations, but I stopped her from doing that as that is NOT the way we raise funds.
Devi has never donated to our fund nor helped us physically in any way.
Cindy and Stuart are the rescues of Wei Kien, and we publicised for adopters because Wei Kien had a 3-day deadline to send them to the shelter. Devi offered to adopt Cindy and Stuart. The rest…is history.
Through the unfolding of this entire case, Devi has repeatedly demonstrated that she only wants Stuart back to prove that she can successfully look after a kitten. To put it bluntly, to nurse her bruised ego. Her initial actions of feeding the kittens baby formula despite being told of its unsuitabilty, her unwillingness to take a taxi to do the necessary to save Stuart’s life and her initial unwillingness to surrender Stuart to a fosterer even though Stuart was dying already speak volumes of her intentions.
Based on these actions and Cindy’s unfortunate demise, we are very doubtful that Devi can provide Stuart with the necessary nutritional and medical care that he would need for the rest of his life. We have made many attempts to resolve this matter through persuasion and discussion, but Devi is unbending in her insistence of wanting Stuart back for her own personal reasons.
We are of the opinion that she is an unfit adopter for Stuart and we will NOT be returning Stuart to her.
This is our final decision on this matter.
Our heartfelt thanks go to everyone who have helped us on this matter. Thank you very much for your overwhelming support and for sharing your experience and thoughts.
Comments
40 responses to “It’s not about us, it’s about the animals (a dilemma in Stuart’s case)”
Dear Devi,
I am not sure why you insist on keeping Stuart when it is plain to see that you are not able to cope his needs. Afterall, you did mention that you have never dealt with such a difficult kitten before. So why do you still insist on having him? Hasn't he caused you enough headache?
Also, you do already have 30 cats, I doubt you will miss this extra problematic one. Unless it is a matter of life and death, which I doubt, I think it would be best to let him go to another who will find him less problematic.
I do hope you will give Stuart a chance at life.
For those of us who has been following/supporting Dr. Chan's work & efforts for animals will agree that Dr. Chan will do her very best in all the cases.
I was very worried when i read about Stuart's condition but was greatly relieved & happy when Stuart starting making progress with Kak Azah. I'm also convinced that Devi (tho i do not know you personally) feels the same, being an animal lover herself.
Under such circumstances, we the humans should be level headed enough to make the best decision for the animal and must not be ruled by our emotions & potentially at the expense of risking the animal's life. Even if this means letting go of an animal that we truly love. And true love is really not about hanging/holding on but it's all about letting go.
At this juncture, nothing should be more important than preservation of a precious little life. I'm very sure that Devi would want nothing more than that for little Stuart.
I'm sure all of us who follows & are active in Dr.Chan's blog have a great amount of trust & respect for Dr.Chan's.
For your love of little Stuart, I honestly hope that Devi will open her heart & heed the advise of a group of sincere people and make the best decision for Stuart. Undoubtedly, we know that you will always love little Stuart. Let him live in your heart & be in all your prayers everyday.
There is no necessity to give in to Devi's demands. As you rightfully said, you are here FOR the ANIMALS. So do exactly that. Time is precious and spending hours and hours to persuade someone who isn't reasonable is just a big waste of time.
Hi Kah Yein,
Devi if you are reading this, please do not take offense.
Sorry that it has come to such an unhappy situation for poor Stuart. At all times for me, being a rescuer find it very difficult to let go of our rescues simply because I have bonded with them, be it only for a few days or weeks of care. No matter how hard is it we have to put the animal welfare foremost.
Devi, you already have thirty cats under your care and you mentioned to Miss Punitha that you could not cope with Stuart, then why do you still want him back? If you don't mind me asking (no offense)…..is it because that you have bonded with him or your ego has been battered?
If you really love Stuart I am sure you would want the best for him and if you cannot provide that for whatever reasons only known to you, then you should let him go to a good home.
You may have erred in Cindy's and Stuart's care but what is important is that you learnt from it and move on. We all make mistakes and nobody is perfect.
So Devi, please cheer up and let it go.
Take care and God bless. You too, Kah Yein.
Blackswan (Kimba’s adopter)
I think Devi has no right to take back the kitten because she didn't look after the kitten well, she cannot give a good home for kitten because she has so many cats and for kittens,thier immune system are very low, her house is not suitable.
If a person has financial and transport problem, is very difficult to give a good care and handle the animal.(emergency case and medical treatment expensive).
Devi cannot always depand on people, she must stand on her own. Why she don't want to listen to your advice?
KY,
I am quite disturbed to read that Devi had actually given the kitties baby formula in spite of having so many cats herself. I strongly believe that Devi should let Stuart go simply because she is not able to look after kittens that have health issues like Stuart and the demised Cindy. And I think Devi demanding for Stuart back is simply a measure to counter her ego. You and Punitha should simply ignore her and get Stuart a new home. Better still convince Kak Azah to adopt him as she has done a good job with him. Yes, KY – its is all about Stuart here and Devi should stop bothering you. If Devi is reading this, she should know when to back off!
W
Dear Devi,
i'm not very good at this. but for me as a cat lover. i would do anything for the best of my furkids. even to let them go if that is the best for them.
i your case, i hope you will reconsider back. its for Little Stuart; he deserve better.
please..
and also, may God bless you for your kind hearted in raising 30 cats.
Hai Devi
Stuart at this point needs medical attention and Kak Azah/Punitha can provide the needed care. With 30cats I am afraid buying PetsOwnMilk is pretty steep for you as well. I hope you will consider letting Stuart go as he is in better hands now.
Regards
Nandhini
Devi,
I know it is very difficult for you to let go of Stuart or any of your cats.
I am very sure you give Stuart and all your cats tons of Tender Loving Care. However TLC alone isn't enough. Stuart and the other cats need proper nutrition and medical care. But given your tight financial situation and the health problems that you have right now, you may not be able to give Stuart proper nutrition and medical care. It is especially important for Stuart to get the proper and correct nutrition so that he can grow up into a healthy cat.
Please allow Dr Chan to help you find a loving home for Stuart. That will the greatest love and sacrifice that you can give to Stuart. And years from now, you can look back and say you have made the wisest decision for Stuart.
lim
Devi,
If you love him, pls let him go. Attachment brings suffering!
Devi, listen and listen good because I will not mince words since you are so thick skin and degil:
Stuart is NOT your kitten, he is God's kitten and all of us are only stewards of God's creatures, we are instructed to care for them, not to abuse them.
You have abused Stuart by giving him human baby formula which caused the vomiting and diarrhoea and killed Cindy, near killing Stuart as well. Despite having 30 cats, you still appear not understand or know how to care for cats and kittens, neither do you have the means to (no $ to buy kitten formula, no $ to take taxi, etc, etc). This shows you are NO rescuer!
You do not even understand that Stuart and Cindy, being so very young must never be taken by you to be exposed to your 30 cats which may be carriers of diseases (from the way you are being described here, I do not think you even have the $ to take them to the vet to test them and ensure that they are all really healthy) and parasites. Also, from the stories, I do not think you even have the $ to treat 30 cats for mange, fleas, fungus and worms (nor do you understand what it takes to keep cats clean and healthy) if you cannot even have the resourse to go out and get kitten formula or plain pure goat milk for poor Stuart and Cindy.
From following the events in Stuart and Cindy's case, I conclude that you are simply a CAT COLLECTER, not a rescuer. You actually do not care for the cats, you just keep cats to entertain yourself and give yourself a good feeling, filling the emptiness in your life.
You know Devi, in the west people like you are liable to be fined, have all your 30 cats confiscated from you for abuse and barred from keeping any animal in future!
So, please stop being so thick skinned and making a fool of yourself. For once in your life, please do something decent for the cat: spare Stuart's life by staying away! Malu sikit lah!
You took Stuart and Cindy in not out of good intentions. You just main-main kucing and robbed the tiny siblings of better and genuine adopters/fosterers, just like tiny Bobtail who lost his life and all of us cried our hearts out for him!
Devi, Stuart is not your cat! You are not capable of taking care of him! Don't use Boy as an excuse! Stuart would be dead if left with people like you.
Dr. Chan, Punitha and Kak Azah, please do not surrender Stuart to Devi. The little boy has escaped death TWICE already for one so young (once, being dumped and second, given human milk which caused his vomitting and diarrhoea and killed his tiny pretty sister Cindy).
Stuart is meant to LIVE with people who really care for him and know how to care for him, not some cat collecter who collects cats.
Tak malu betul lah you ni Devi, still in denial tak pandai jaga anak kucing tapi masih nak berebut! Kak Azah, jangan serah si Stuart tu! Menyesal besar korang semua nanti … kesian budak kecik tu!
Devi, don't blame the kittens Stuart and Cindy for falling sick. They are not "difficult" kittens as you described them (they are just normal healthy very young kittens cruelly separated from their mother at such a young age), it is just that you yourself are negligent, ignorant (fed them with human baby milk that is very unsuitable for them making them ill, vomit and have diarrhoea) and blind to learning things by listening to others, observing things around you and reading because of a huge inflated ego.
As a result, you will continue to walk around as an ignorant and continue to blame others for things that go wrong. Here you have just blamed Stuart for being "difficult", not that you were ignorant and stubborn, too proud to listen to Dr. Chan and Punitha's good advice.
If Stuart lives, and continue to live, that would indeed be a miracle, thanks not to you, Devi, but thanks to Dr. Chan (AnimalCare), Punitha, Kak Azah for their perserverance in doing what their heart believe is right all to save one precious, tiny life … even though only a cat mah! 😉
Dear Devi,
Having pets comes with loads of responsibilities. Food, shelter & of course medical. If you can't even bring yourself to take a taxi to get right milk (especially when a kitten's life depended on it), I wonder what will happen when there is a medical emergency. Please let go. Stuart already had rough start in life. Let him at least have a good one from now onwards.
You're SELFISH! Self Centred and YOU only care for yourself. 30 cats you have accumulated is not enough and you want more!! more than you can handle and you can't even help Stuart to be taken care by others, when you have no means whatsoever. If there's any more sense in you, let Kak Azah take care. You can still visit the cats, because, if you really want to, you'd walk to the vet to get the milk. But, you just cant. For the good of all cats, let them be fostered by others if you cant take care. If you're Stuart, how would you feel? no transport, no taxi?
Devi, let go of Stuart if you care enough for him.
You want Stuart back to satisfy your own ego not that you love him. If you love Stuart, you would have taken all necessary steps to ensure the little one is given the right milk from the beginning.
What have you done for Stuart? NOTHING… but sitting down and hoping others will come to your rescue…bring you to the vet, buy milk and deliver to your door step. Stuart would have been long dead if he is still with you.
Let him go. Stuart deserves a better mummy!
In this case, you don't even have to 'kitnap', the kitten is already out with somebody. Just do what you like to help the kitten. Don't waste time on her.
KY, after having to put up with my share of psychos, I've lost any ability of being tactful. So I am going to say it as I see it. Devi is a hoarder. She comes across as someone who has problems with her self-esteem and therefore she counters this as seeing herself as a saviour of sorts for animals. As far as she is concerned what happened with Cindy is a personal defeat. She has to counter this defeat with a victory and to do so she has to get Stuart back, nurture him into a healthy cat and show her perceived detractors her victory. It has nothing to do with love for Stuart. She is certainly not a rescuer. Rescuers do not hoard – they treat, care, nurture and rehome. Rescuing is also about letting go so that the best interest of the animal is guaranteed. Just ignore here and ask Kaz Azah to block her. Continuous SMSs can be very trying and I can vouch this from personal experience as I too had come under such an attack recently. Devi, if you are reading this – for heaven's sake woman – YOU KILLED CINDY! Any idiot with at least some experience with animals would know that kittens and puppies cannot take human milk. They will also know what they can use as substitute in the event puppy or kitten formula is not available. You did not know that in spite of having 30 cats. Please let this go.
W
Wani, like me, you also called a spade a spade. Many times, we are forced to tell things like it is because a life is at stake and some people are so thick faced and in denial!
Dr. Chan, Punitha and Kak Azah, you have just performed the "Rescue of the Year" for Stuart and some in-denial, ignorant, ego-maniac animal collector is still unrepentant!
DON'T surrender Stuart! Otherwise, Bobtail would have died in vain! Remember Bobtail's tragedy, please!
Teddybear is alive today because Dr. Chan raced against time, intercepted and successfully retrieved him (but Bobtail had not been as lucky), saving his life and the fosterer had not insisted on taking him back because he recognised that he himself had been overwhelmed enough with his own huge number of cats at home.
Once again, wise, determined and strong-willed Dr. Chan and Punitha also rushed against time (you have to do so with kittens this young), intercepted and soldiered on to retrieve a dying baby Stuart, this time fighting a resisting, ignorant and stubborn, ego-centric fosterer who, although having demonstrated herself unworthy and incapable of taking care of the kitten, still fights to take back the newly recovered sick kitten by harrassing everybody.
She has no shame, this woman!
KY,
You, Punitha and Kak Azah have done marvellously well for Stuart. I guess u have to be hard on Devi and just ignore her demands. I really feel sad for you to have to cross paths with ppl like that in your journey towards saving strays.
Devi, you have done a good job in time of needs by offering to adopt these 2 little kittens. But your good deeds will be cancelled if you do not have the means to do what is best for these *problematic* kittens.
Stuart does not belong to you. One little innocent life has died in your hands. Please let Stuart go. He is in good hands now and he deserves to live his life out in a loving and caring environment where the adopter has the means to provide for his medical needs as well.
"Devi has accused us of going back on our word, of betraying her and she says we refuse to give Stuart back because we want to SELL him …"
Madam Devi, please do yourself a favor, can?
Go take a look at your own face in the biggest mirror you can find.
Stop harrassing those kind, genuine rescuers. Otherwise, we will help them lodge a police report against you for harrassment, false accusations, negligence and animal abuse. We are not joking!
You, madam, are certainly no animal rescuer, you are an animal collector and exploiter! Stop your silly and ugly antics at once! It is not funny!
Why to some parents give up their children for adoption? because they know they're unable to give their fullest care with their current condition. it hurts them a lot, but they know the child would have a better chance of living a better life.
caring for sick young pets require more attention, just like human babies with diarrhoea which can cause death. Devi knows she doesnt have the basic means, financial or understanding to care for Stuart. she insist for the cat but expects others to assist her. how selfish can she get. does she wants to cause another death in her hands?
So please give Stuart up, for a better chance to live. Let Stuart be cared by someone else who can give the proper attention. that's the least you can do after the what you've cause earlier.
Dr. Chan,
I am as concerned as everyone else about Stuart's condition.
I purposely went down to Brickfields this morning and met up with Devi.
I explained to her that you, Punitha, Kak Azah and lots of other people are very concerned about Stuart and are trying to find a good, loving home for Stuart where he can get proper nutrition and medical care.
I also told Devi not to get upset and offended by the comments made by people because these people meant well.
Devi indicated that she is determined to prove to everyone that she can take care of Stuart. But I told her that this attitude is not right and she should not let her ego get into the way. What is important is the future and welfare of Stuart.
I spent more than half an hour with Devi, listening and talking to her. Before I left, I told her to think about Stuart's future. She said she will think over it and will discuss it with her son and let us know sometime today.
I am hoping she will agree so that we can move on from here.
lim
oh my. i hope devi will rethink, think harder this time on whats best for Stuart, not whats best for her
Devi has no rights over Stuart at all so there is no need to "discuss" with her son or anyone else in her favor. I repeat: she has NO rights, not before, not now.
Only Stuart has rights – to live and live well, with who, it is quite obvious.
Devi, you have no rights over Stuart, never had, only stewardship where you had failed miserably, costing Cindy's life and almost Stuart's had Dr. Chan and Punitha not intervened.
You have not shown any remorse up till now, only blind stubborn ignorance and a puffed up ego, ready to gamble away Stuart's life a second time just to prove that you are right! You are quite a bully too!
Devi, get lost!
The latest update stating that Devi is determined to get Stuart bad is really disturbing. Why can't an adolescence think rightly?
Dear Devi, pls don't let the emotion overtake you. It's not about whether you can do it or not, or if it's the only right thing. It's all about a life, a precious life, no matter how small it is. Pls don't act emotionally, one already died and we all know that you wouldn't want the other follow.
YG, Devi is a grown-up with a son. Not an adolescent.
Devi, hope you read this …
Selfishness, not thinking of Stuart's best interest and refusal to listen to good advice of people more experienced and knowledgeable than you, refusal to be humble and acknowledge your ignorance and weaknesses so that you can better yourself, continue to do the wrong things simply to satisfy your ego, to the point of causing the loss one young life already, and ready to gamble away one more precious life. All for your ego and air muka …
Devi is a grown-up with a son. Not an adolescent?
She is a parent? Wah, that makes her behaviour even worse to terima.
Devi, you better stop harrassing the good people and wasting their time. They are true rescuers and have many more strays to save and help.
Your words and deeds speak against you!
dr chan,
looks like devi is playing host to mara!
since i'm just getting info thru' this blog on the situation there, i can't offer much help.
perhaps u can ask what devi ACTUALLY wants (don't beat around the bush) – is it nursing a bruised (so-called) "ego" or just cold hard $$$$. if it's the latter, how much is she asking for?
i understand that u will not want myanimalcare to turn into a business/trade transaction, but looks like u r crashing into a bottomless pit.
May you always have Love to Share, Health to Spare and Friends who Care.
devi,
It is very important that you focus on your own actions and take responsibility for them. read everyone's comments here and see the pain you caused. if you can admit your own faults, if you can see how hurtful your actions are and tap into a sense of concern, then compassion and loving-friendliness will flow.
remember this: the greatest generosity is non-attachment; so PLS release stuart.
Anon, kalau tak silap, dah tua dah. Anak pun dah besar. Aku pun tak boleh terima. Mana ada orang dewasa sikap kurang ajar macam ni?Pikir macam seluruh dunia dia aje?
" … i understand that u will not want myanimalcare to turn into a business/trade transaction, but looks like u r crashing into a bottomless pit …"
What are you talking about, Khim? What bottomless pit? I don't see AnimalCare crashing anywhere? Nothing wrong with AnimalCare at all, what business/transaction are you talking about? No one has been talking about $$, certainly not AnimalCare or its followers, just you insinuating something. Even if Devi is blackmailing for $$, which doesn't look like it, just a bruised ego, no one is talking about any payoff or even thinking about it and neither is it the practice of AnimalCAre, I'm sure. No one is paying anybody any $!
Khim, are you throwing a spanner into the already hot wok? What are you trying to do?
Dr. Chan, it looks like Devi has started displaying her nasty side by harassing you guys and even bringing her grown up son into the picture (previously she had feigned innocence and ignorance that Fernleaf milk etc. was not alright for the baby kittens, Stuart and now dead Cindy).
You need to play hard ball with people like this in order to effectively protect innocents and helpless ones like Stuart.
She has absolutely no claim over Stuart, never has, so never play into her idea. You guys are Stuart's responsible guardians.
I’m disappointed that my intentions r misunderstood. I was juz suggesting that being human, perhaps devi is looking for financial help (reads $$. there4 since she just couldn’t heed dr chan’s advice, perhaps we can try asking her what she REALLY wants.
U may never know unless U R DEVI HERSELF – ah, then that xplains the indignation!
Instead of venting your indignation at me, it’s better that u offer some suggestions to dr chan
Dr Chan,
I have just spoken to Devi and she said that she and her son want Stuart back.
She said her son became very upset when asked whether he was willing to let Stuart go. The son refused to take his lunch after that. Apparently the son has been helping Devi to feed Stuart and has become very attached to Stuart.
I tried to impress on Devi again that everyone is trying to do the best for Stuart and that she should consider Stuart's future also. But Devi remained unbending in her decision.
lim
KY, just ignore Devi. So what if her son had refused to have lunch? Its good not to eat once in a while. As she has unwittingly admitted that she wanted Stuart to prove a point – more reason for you to ignore this woman and let Stuart be where he is.
W
Why does the matter has to come to this point, Devi? And why complicate matters? This is so unnecessary because the answer is clear & simple and all spelt out too. What does it take to make you understand that the key concern here & now is neither you nor your son's feelings & ego. The main & only focus here is Stuart's well being. And there isn't a need to prove anything to anyone. This is neither a contest nor pageant. So, please let go & allow everyone including yourself to move on.
Dr. Chan, i trust you will do what is best & needed for little Stuart. We will support you all the way…
Your son don't want to eat even though so lucky that human food is served? Then don't eat lah! He wants Stuart? No lah, what he needs is a lifeless teddy bear.
You want to nurse a very young kitten, Devi and prove that you can? Go to the Toys"R"Us and buy the tiniest lifeless stuffed toy kitten and a toy milk bottle.
Great decision, Dr. Chan! Have a good life, everyone!
Case closed.